One Shoe Only

I’ve recently discovered that while many people have no problem with gay people, they do have a problem with gay people in relationships (with other gay people). I’ve had some individuals who I would have counted as friends go right off me as soon as I entered into relationships. I know people who are acquaintances that have no problem with my sexuality – but they still won’t ask about the other half.

Like they’ve just realised what being gay actually entails, they suddenly remember a vague feeling of disgust as same sex relationships. One lesbian is fine, but two? I don’t think they mean to be hypocritical, I am happy to understand that some people find it hard to adjust to seeing two women together, but I do find it difficult to understand why it’s easier to accept a lesbian singleton.

Akin, to the lesbian repulsion at bisexuals - we are generally fine with them when they want to date the female sex, but as soon as they get a boyfriend they are frozen out of our social circles quicker than Birdseye’s fish fingers. In the same way a group of embittered singletons will say their close friend ‘changed’ when they found a partner and settled down into a ‘boring’ relationship, that we’d all rather like for ourselves.

Is it just an excuse not to remember your own loneliness, or are heterosexual’s inherent homophobes, whose thin veil is lifted only when faced with actual homosexuality.